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Life & Arts

Forum focuses on fixing relationship woes

The Remedy

Donica' Beckett

If you've been yearning to become a better lover in more ways than one, listen up because the Student Program Board's relationship forum offered an outpour of advice for those looking to unwind that a-maze-ing journey down lover's lane. 

The anticipated evening began with heart-pumping echoes of the latest hip-hop love song. As the sounds of hip-hop romance dimmed, the first question was popped. 

"What can you do to turn men onto you?" The most popular response seemed to be gaining an education. According to the males in this crowd, educated women are sexy and in style, so stay in school. 

Can platonic relationships or opposite-sex friends truly exist? Sure they can, if and only if both people trust one another and don't have insecurity issues to deal with. What about the expectations which come with the exchange of phone numbers? 

"If he's a gentleman, then he will ask when the best time to call is," marketing senior Sara Bobrick said. 

Have you ever tried to have a long-distance relationship and it didn't last? According to the forum audience, if you are the type of person who needs intimate physical contact and constant attention from your mate on a regular basis, 99.9 percent of the time it's not going to work out. 

Has your man ever claimed that all you do is complain? According to some, women are sensitive and everything men do is right, yet wrong. 

Ladies, if your man is still getting numbers at the club, he may only be "networking." After all, it's all about who you know, right? What about women who smother them? 

"Women who continuously seek validation from their men are highly unattractive," political science David Burkley said. "If a female doesn't have a life of her own and lacks self-confidence, its not going to work." 

How do you know if someone is right for you? The crowd-pleasing answer was, "Nine times out of ten, if the person you are with is right for you, then you won't have to ask yourself this question." Have you ever been told, "I love you, but I am not in love with you"? Translation: a nice way of saying I am comfortable with you, and that's about it. 

Do nice guys finish last, and are women quick to place them in the "friend zone"? According to one student, Destiny's Child's newest hit "Solider" isn't reflective of what all women want in a man. A man must have a "strong mind" as well. 

Are you a drama king or queen? Does the drama in your relationship seem to never fizzle out? According to this crowd, a little drama in a relationship just might not be a bad thing. 

"No drama at all isn't normal; everything in a relationship shouldn't be perfect. If it seems to be perfect, someone's not being honest," Burkley said. 

Is your phone ringing off the hook after midnight and you don't suspect an emergency? You may be suffering from "booty-call" syndrome. Some women at the forum stated that some guys just don't know the value of a real relationship. Other advice ranged from not answering the call to establishing sex in relationship when both parties are comfortable and in agreement. What about the possibility of both people in a relationship loving one another equally? Can this really happen? Some at the forum thought that couples do possess the potential to grow together, therefore loving and appreciating one another no matter what. In addition, maybe we can all relate to Elvis' "Heartbreak Hotel" or many other shattered heart songs, but the best way to recover from a broken heart and start fresh in a new relationship according to Biology Pre-Med, junior, Shade Johnson, is to "take it slow, be watchful, but don't hold back." 
 

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